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What is happiness and how do we find it? This is probably one of the greatest existential questions of humankind—along with what we are meant to do with our lives. It’s certainly a question I get asked a lot and I am thrilled to share the 4 key factors that allow me to be happy and content in my everyday life. 

Forewarning: happiness doesn’t happen overnight and depending on the state of your current habits, will take some genuine effort. Needless to say it is worth it, sweet Sister!

How to Be Happy and Content | Decrease Social Media Consumption

The first lesson on how to be happy and content is to decrease your social media consumption. There is only one person in this world that I know who has never opened any sort of social media account. How did they stay so strong after all these years—I don’t know—but the fact is the vast majority of the population use social media. And of that majority, the majority of people over-use it. 

Social media has its benefits, don’t get me wrong. It can bring people together, both personally and professionally, and provides a great business marketing avenue. So, the answer isn’t as simple as deleting your account. Rather, be aware of the amount of control it has over you. 

Monitor Yourself

How often do you check your Facebook? If you have the app on your phone, chances are you are checking in multiple times a day. It’s probably one of the first things you do when you wake up and last thing you do when you go to bed. I’m willing to bet you check it when you make a trip to the bathroom or are sitting in a waiting room. Am I right?

It might seem like you are just passing the time but this addictive behavior isn't healthy. It can take a toll on your mood, sleep, and perception of yourself.  

Some simple things to help you reduce your exposure:

• Keep your phone out of sight
• Set boundaries and expectations for yourself—allow time to truly unplug
• Block negative people
• Delete the apps off your phone so you aren’t tempted by every “down” moment you have

Find More Happiness | Let Your Creativity Blossom

Now that you have some new found freedom from the mindless scrolling on social media, what will you do? 

Allow yourself to be creative. It is one of the best things you can do for yourself. We are all creative beings, so don’t think you can bypass this step because you’ve never thought of yourself that way before. 

You may need to try out a few artforms before you find the one. However, you absolutely have something to contribute to the world creatively. 

My Creative Journey

To be honest, I never used to consider myself a creative person. Before I wrote my book, I had only written for my business and I didn’t enjoy it! It was hard and I put an immense amount of pressure on myself to say something profound every time I put pen to paper. 

It wasn’t until I went through my own journey of healing that I began to see myself as a creative being. In 2017, I was approached to contribute a couple of chapters to a self-help book for mothers. That was an eye-opening experience—it caused me to look at myself in a different light. 

That opportunity really shaped my beginning as a writer and eventually turned me into an author.

When Lions Roar

When I was going through the process of writing my own book, I promised myself I would be open to what came and trust that whatever my experience was, it was meant to be. I did a lot of journaling and asked a lot of questions.

When I finished it, I had this deep feeling that I had to publish it. It was the voice of my soul and I knew it needed to be heard. Being open and recognizing that fact was very scary. When I started, I was fully prepared to keep my book just for me, and call it a learning experience. So, to share with others was a giant leap of faith.  

Writing When Lions Roar was a tremendous healing process for me, and I knew it would help heal other women as well.

Find More Happiness | Travel & Try New Things

Another way to find inner happiness is to experience something new! Expand your horizons, travel and immerse yourself in all its glory. Open the floodgates to ideas and innovation. 

Get out of your regular consumption of what you eat, see, hear, and experience. These types of fresh and exciting adventures help you grow as an individual and certainly contribute to making you happier!

Exposing yourself to new experiences is an investment in yourself. 

How to Be Happy and Content | Replace Worry with Wonder

Worrying is a waste of time and mental energy. It solves nothing, messes with your mind and steals your happiness. But simply stopping isn’t as easy as it sounds, is it? You actually need to rewire your brain to respond in a different way.

So, pay attention to your thoughts and when you recognize yourself entering the worry zone (big or small), try one of the following instead:

• Learn a new skill
• Exercise
• Meditate 
• Read
• Wonder—when you pose your worry in the form of a question, your subconscious will come up with a creative solution. Try it!

Worry Journal

You can also choose to write your worry down in a journal. This might sound counterintuitive because by writing it down, you are giving more power to it; however, I find that it’s quite the opposite. 

When I write something down, I no longer feel like I need to keep it stored in my memory. It is safely written down for a later time. The key to this exercise is not to reread your past entries and when you have filled a notebook, get rid of it! You won’t believe the relief you get from that!  

When Lions Roar

I wrote this book with the thought that every woman has an inner lioness—a magnificent force full of strength, passion and beauty, waiting to be called upon. 

It is a fictional story of empowerment, based on real life emotions.

It covers deep universal issues that women continue to navigate—including the ability to trust one's voice, deep friendships, finding empowerment in your struggle, and connection to your internal power.

It also portrays the unconditional love between a mother and a daughter. It speaks to women who seek to live stronger, more beautifully aligned love-filled lives. I would love for you to read it!

It is available on Amazon. Click here to purchase your copy!

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There is a common set of money mindset issues that plague almost every entrepreneur and small business owner I meet. So, if you have already recognized something’s amiss in yourself, you’re not alone. I am sharing what those mindset issues are, how they are holding you back financially, and how to overcome them so you can live a life full of abundance—a life by design.

Making money isn’t hard, so if it feels hard for you, there is something else going on. You need to figure out what the roadblocks are and be honest with yourself in the process. There is certainly no judgment from me—I have personally been most challenged by mindset issue #3.  

I’ve seen the before and after and now know the importance of keeping a sound mind when handling my finances. Knowledge is power, remember. The more information you know about habits and behaviors, the better your business (and your life) will be for it. 

Money Mindset Issues #1: Scarcity Mindset

One of the major money mindset issues that I recognize in my clients is having a scarcity mindset—looking at things as though there are limits. It’s easy to fall into that way of thinking. The notion that there is some sort of cap to your potential earning or creating can be almost comforting because the alternative is overwhelmingly scary.

If there aren’t any limits, what are you striving toward?

The thing is, Sister, when you look at things from a scarcity mindset, you put yourself into fear. And fear prompts you to think negatively, which (as you know) doesn’t get you where you want to be.  

Toxic thoughts start to arise, like these: 

• “The market is saturated.”
• “I can’t do what she’s doing.” 
• “No one’s going to pay money for this.”
• “There are only so many clients to go around.”
• “If I am rich, someone else has to be poor.”

And the perpetual thought that you aren’t good enough begins... 

Break Free of a Scarcity Mindset

Repeat after me: you are limitless. You have the potential to be, do and have whatever you desire in this world!

There are ways to overcome a scarcity mindset and it starts with your mind. You need to practice expansive thinking (versus trade-off thinking) where you say to yourself—”I can have this AND I can have that.”

Learn how to train your thoughts and overcome a scarcity mindset, and move toward abundance by clicking here.

Achieve Rich Mindset #2: Lacking Spiritual Energy

Money is a spiritual energy. And just like any spiritual energy, it requires respect. To attract wealth and achieve a rich mindset, you must incorporate a financial spiritual practice into your life.  

Start by visualizing your life with money. Envision a life that brings you peace, fulfillment and financial joy—one that allows you to do what you love to do.

When you get into the habit of this type of deep thought, you shine at your brightest as an energetic being and become a magnet for abundance. 

Click here to learn more about money vibrations and how your energy, aura, and mood is affecting your financial future.

Money Mindset Issues #3: Mindlessness 

Just as mindless eating wreaks havoc on your physical health, mindless money handling wreaks havoc on your financial health. It’s a symbiotic relationship—what you feed your finances (and financial spirit) will affect its ability to generate more income.  

Frankly, being mindless with anything is not a good practice. So, I would rethink your daily habit of scrolling social media while you’re at it—it’s not relaxing you the way you think. 

The Effects of Mindlessness

Mindlessness affects your stress level, mental health, sleeping habits, energy levels and weight. And when it comes to your finances, mindlessness can get precarious. 

Make sure you have control over your spending habits and can track the comings and goings of your money. When you are mindful of it, you will reframe your connection and begin healing your relationship with it. There are some simple money management tips to help you with this that I think every entrepreneur should know.

Achieve Rich Mindset #4: Jealousy

Jealousy stems from insecurity and it robs you of true happiness, financial or otherwise. When you come from a place of jealousy, you are not in power. Just like the scarcity mindset, this is another fear position.

It’s called a mindset for a reason—it’s all in your head. The people you are jealous of, no doubt have problems of their own. They don’t have more than you, you just believe they do. 

So, ditch the jealousy and live your life, from a position of strength and love.

Money Mindset Issues #5: Victim Mentality

The last common money mindset issue I see is having a victim mentality. You know the trap…blaming others and/or circumstances, refusing to help yourself because what’s the point—you’ll inevitably be pushed down anyway, right?

Granted, women have had a tough go of it, I’ll give you that, but…excuses keep us powerless. Be the brave sister you are and escape the victim mentality. 

Take responsibility for your life. Know your worth and stop making excuses. 

Create little milestones for yourself—every time you meet one, you’ll build confidence. Focus on what you have instead of what you don’t (I talk all about that in this blog post. Read #3). When you step into your power and strength, you have room to make positive decisions and changes.

Women Supporting Women

I want you to know that you aren’t alone in this. These are very common mindset issues for entrepreneurs. Not only that but I have created a private community for you to share these challenges with fellow entrepreneurs, and make you feel empowered to shift your energy.

It’s a virtual community on Facebook called The Female Entrepreneur Society. I created it specifically for you, a female entrepreneur who wants to be successful in her business. We focus on aligning your business with your Soul’s desires and master money, mindset, and marketing. 

It’s an artform that can be mastered. Are you in? Click here to join the group.

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I often talk about the power of positivity with my clients—and the fact that positive thinking has the extraordinary ability to produce more positive thoughts. Negative thoughts are, unfortunately, very powerful as well. They can drag you to your knees and keep you down if you let them. 

One of the most common states I see my clients get into is having a scarcity mindset—where you are obsessed with what you are lacking in life and can’t focus on anything else. 

It is a dangerous state to be in for an entrepreneur. 

When your mind is burdened with constant thoughts of “I don’t have enough”, I’m afraid to tell you, Sister, you will never have enough. The grass will always be greener in someone else’s pasture, unless you switch your mentality. 

And in order to break yourself free of the chains, you need to reprogram your mind to focus on solutions instead of problems. 

Train Your Mind

Think of your mind as a muscle that you need to train. Just like every other muscle in your body, you need to provide adequate nourishment and exercise to shape it. A wandering mind is an unhappy mind—it needs guidance. 

I am sharing exactly how to guide your mind to overcome a scarcity mindset and move toward abundance.  

Have you read these other posts about attracting wealth?

Money Mindset Tips: 7 Insipid Things that are Killing Your Ability to Attract Wealth

How to Attract Abundance: Discover 3 Ways to Shift Your Money Vibration Today

Overcome Scarcity Mindset #1: Connect to Your Dreams

When you find yourself cycling through one negative thought after another, the first thing you need to do is think of the future you want to have for yourself and your business. Reconnect to your dreams and desires and remind yourself of the goal—to be full of abundance.

It is hard not to compare yourself to others as society often does it without our permission. But you do have control over what you are comparing. Do not compare your insides to other people’s outsides—who you are personally has nothing to do with what your competitor is doing professionally. 

Focus on building a successful business, under your vision and values, not what everyone else is doing.

Building Wealth Tip #2: Find Inspiration

Instead of seeing other entrepreneurs in your field as competition, see them as inspiration. Come from a place of appreciation and admiration, rather than uncertainty and self-doubt. You will sense a positive shift in yourself immediately.  

When you observe what others are doing, identify what it is that you like. What is it about their product, service, or process that attracts you? Does it fit with your vision for your business? How does it inspire you to grow and expand?

Instead of becoming jealous or coming down hard on yourself, use it to your advantage. 

Overcome Scarcity Mindset #3: Recognize Abundance

When you focus on what (and who) you have in your life, you will see how abundant your life already is. Think about what you have already accomplished, both personally and professionally.

Don’t forget about the things we often take for granted—the birds that are always singing a song, the cuddles with your children or pets, the food you get to eat, warm showers or baths, a meaningful friendship, etc. 

Our lives are filled with abundance that is not directly related to money—so, give thanks for ALL the abundance in your life.

In what ways do you already feel abundant? 

Building Wealth Tip #4: Avoid Complaining and Complainers

As I said in the beginning, the power of negativity is strong. Make it a point to not only avoid thinking (and verbalizing) negative thoughts but also stay away from those who do. Misery loves company—you want to distance yourself from all negative energies. 

It’s time to take responsibility for your thoughts and actions. Stop blaming external factors for things that are happening “to you”. Instead, recognize they are happening for you. Every struggle or challenge you face is a gift. 

Think of it as a time to practice being the woman you want to be!

Overcome Scarcity Mindset #5: Be Good to Yourself

While you work on diverting any negative energy, don’t overlook yourself. Release the negative self-talk as well. The positive vibrations that you will receive in return will replenish your soul ten fold. 

Don’t think I don’t know your Inner Mean Girl, who tells you you’re not good enough…that everyone is better than you…or no one cares what you have to say! She’s kept you under her control…up until now. 

Now she’s simply in your way, preventing you from growing and stepping into the leader you are meant to be. Let her know you don’t need her anymore—loudly and proudly. 

It’s time to invest in yourself. You’ve got this! 

Building Wealth Tip #6: Be Good to Others

Be good to others too—uplift, support, and promote your friends, your family and your fellow entrepreneurs. Help them spread awareness of their latest launch, celebrate with them when they hit milestones of their own, or simply share the joy of their work. It is good Karma for you and your business. 

All these things feel so good too. 

Overcome Scarcity Mindset #7: Get Mentally Organized

The final way to overcome a scarcity mindset is to get organized—mentally. Take steps daily to clean up your habits and declutter your mind, body, spirit and environment. 

When you eliminate the toxic thoughts, things, and behaviors in your life, you make room for the new, fresh, supportive energies and experiences to come forth.

A great way to do this is to keep a journal. Write down your to-do lists, your aspirations, any (seemingly random) thought that comes to mind. You will be glad to have a place to leave the mental madness and free up some headspace to focus on other ideas.  

Support For You 

I encourage you to join my Facebook group, The Female Entrepreneur Society. It is a private space created exclusively for you, a female entrepreneur who desires to be successful in her soul-aligned business. 

I share more advice like this and show you how to reach financial independence while making an impact. I am here for you, my friend—to help see you through to the other side of scarcity—abundance. Click here to join the Facebook group.

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Frustrated because you aren’t making big money yet? The problem is bigger than you think. Although you think you are doing all of the right things, you have probably overlooked a big one—your mindset. I am going to help you change that through my tried-and-true money mindset tips. 

In the words of country music legend, Kenny Rogers: 

You've got to know when to hold 'em

Know when to fold 'em

Know when to walk away

And know when to run

If you want to make more money, you’ve got to learn what the obstacles are, how to overcome them and get out of your own way!

Money Mindset Tip #1: Imposter Syndrome

The #1 thing that is killing your ability to attract wealth: the imposter syndrome.

A phenomenon in which someone believes they are not good enough despite having outstanding academic and/or professional accomplishments. 

This is a sad but very real experience that many women have, and unfortunately very common in female entrepreneurs. 

No Discrimination

It affects everyone, including the rich and famous! Hollywood celebrities, Charlize Theron and Viola Davis have suffered from it. Even American author, poet and civil rights activist Maya Angelou confessed to experiencing it. 

If you have had this feeling, you are not alone in it; however, that doesn't mean you should hold onto it. So, let’s kick that mentality and move into a more positive mindset.

Money Making Tip #2: Unworthiness

From feeling like a fraud to feeling unworthy. This is the second biggest reason you aren’t generating wealth.

How do you decide whether you are worthy—to be, do, say or charge something? It is typically assessed by comparing yourself to others, which is a flawed approach because no one else is you!

You are unique and therefore don’t compare to others. No one else has the same skills as you and they aren’t in the same place as you are in your business. 

One of the craziest things you can do is measure yourself against someone who has been in business longer than you. 

How can you compete with unrealistic expectations?

Simply put—you can’t—and end up thinking you aren’t good enough (see money mindset tip #1). 

Money Mindset Tip #3: Perfectionism

Perfectionism—a self-destructive behavior that you need to stop right now!

It is the killer of dreams and damaging to entrepreneurs everywhere. The funny thing is, people actually think it’s a good thing.  

If you’ve ever thought to yourself—I need to make this perfect before I put it out there—you are guilty of perfectionism. 

This thought process will put a halt to everything, including making money.

Stop Over-Analyzing

When you analyze (and agonize) over your content before it even sees the light of day, you are sending out low vibrations and you know what happens when you stay in the land of low vibrations from my last post. 

You hinder your ability to attract wealth. Perfectionism will hold you back every time. 

Read more about how perfectionism holds you back and how to avoid other major entrepreneurial mistakes that women are making. 

Money Making Tip #4: Procrastination

Oh, procrastination—the I’ll-do-anything-else action before working on my business content. It’s no wonder it hurts my wealth building. 

We’ve probably all been guilty of this a time or two. I mean, there are many days where I would rather make treats for my daughter’s class or go pickup the dry cleaning before working on what I should be working on.  

Procrastination is one of the main barriers blocking you from making the right decisions and living the dream life you've thought of.

Money Mindset Tip #5: Seeking Validation

Seeking validation is a perfectly normal human instinct. We are naturally social creatures. We thrive in a community; therefore, have a strong desire to belong in that community and seek validation from it.

This can be really gratifying…and addicting. It can easily overpower your own thoughts. You will start to base all of your decisions on what others think.

Thoughts like:

• “If someone would tell me how awesome I am, I could do this.”
• “I wonder what so-and-so thinks I should do.”
• “Should I be doing what she is doing?”

Do you see how this can become overwhelming?

Constantly asking or wondering what someone else is doing in their business defeats the purpose of running your own business.   

Stop seeking validation and start thriving in your own headspace.

Money Making Tip #6: Lack Mentality

Have you ever insulted yourself for the sake of being more relatable to your friends? What about accusing yourself of wrongdoing when you achieve something?

Similar to the Imposter Syndrome (see tip #1), these actions not only indicate there is something going on with your self confidence, but something much deeper. Purposefully bringing yourself down because you believe your gain is someone else’s loss is a phenomenon called lack mentality. 

You believe that there isn’t enough in the world (not enough love, success, money, health, happiness). So, if you are in love, have success, money, health and happiness then you must be taking it from someone else. 

It is pretty obvious how detrimental this can be to your mental health and your growing business. 

This self sabotage, negative emotion not only affects your well-being, but it also prevents you from receiving anything other than that. Negativity generates negativity—it’s a bad place to be. 

Money Mindset Tip #7: Scarcity Mentality

When you are hyper-focused on what you are lacking in life and no matter how hard you try, you can’t focus on anything else, you are living in a scarcity mentality. 

This is when you obsess about not having enough of something—time, money, clients, etc. When those worries consume you, there isn’t much room left for positive thoughts.

And you know how important positive thoughts are. 

A scarcity mentality can take a big toll on your mental (and financial) health.

Read more about the power of positivity here. 

Next Steps: Financial Health

Now that you have cleared a mental path to openly receive wealth, it’s time to set the foundation for your future finances. 

Have you read my other blog posts on financial health? If you learned something from this one, you don’t want to miss the others in my money and mindset series. Here are a few I think you’ll really enjoy:

Entrepreneur Advice: The #1 Change You Need to Make to Create a Profitable Business

Simple Money Management Tips: 3 Ways to Practice Financial Self Care

How to Make Money as an Entrepreneur: 9 Crucial Steps for Your First 100K Year

How to Attract Abundance: Discover 3 Ways to Shift Your Money Vibration Today

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